So I was the receiver of some unfortunate news. Someone shared with me their concerns for a friend that just didn't seem to understand the importance of self worth and standards. Ladies and Gentlemen, as the title reads YOU are the most important person in YOUR life! Even if you have children, a husband/wife, significant other, YOU ARE STILL MORE IMPORTANT THAN THEM! If you don't take care of yourself and have your own best interest at heart then who will? Its easy to jump at the question and say, "Oh, My friend knows how I feel or what I need." Great, live in delusion if you want but listen and learn this early in life. You have to take care of yourself physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. You know what you want and would like to get out of life so protect those virtues and DO NOT let others dictate to you. Stand up for what you believe in and BE YOU. People only treat you the way you let them treat you. Treat yourself with respect and others will mirror your efforts.
Have standards. If you don't have expectations of those around you they will act or say things that you feel are not appropriate but if you establish early in the friendship/relationship what your expectations are, there will be no surprise when you remind them.
I'll leave you with this quote that I have heard from my childhood, "“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” -Dr. Seuss
Agreed! I have a friend who is unhappily married and trying to get a divorce but allows her locked-up- soon-to-be ex husband to tell her ...get ready for this...that SHE doesn't know what SHE wants. And that they belong together and should work it out because they can...She's confused, ok, that's allowed. But sometimes all you need to know is that you want to be happy. And that's what you have to decide to be whether or not you know how to obtain that happiness. You can't let anyone else tell you how to be happy because they don't know you like you know yourself. In some cases (such as my friend's), often, your "adviser" is speaking from the perspective of what makes them happy, not you. Suggestions are great, but can sometimes just drown out your own thoughts. So be honest with others, and tell them to shut up and get out of your head..then be honest with yourself about who and what is most important (hint: It's YOU)
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